Women Folk School on neo-dalit campaign against politics of division,exploitation and hatred with an alternative of unity of broken masses on base of reconciliation, democracy, secularism and non violence
Neodalit campaign that inculcated from synergetic culture of Varanasi reached from the villages of Varanasi to the other side of the world in Peru to observe March 21 as the International Day for the Elimination of Racial Discrimination. People lit up candle to support the campaign. At first candle was lighted by Deewai Rodriguez of Philippines and Elias Schmidt of Germany. Among the supporters of the Neodalits were working president of the World Buddha Association Rajbodh Kaul, dalit politician Uditraj, tribal leader Dayamani Barla, photographer Alessio Mammo, freelance filmmaker Joy Guha along with the people from the different communities.Marian Dass an NRI living in London has said we will observe in London. Congratulations for the launch of Neo Dalits movement. How secular & inclusive & a common platform for our people scattered and shattered in various faiths or no faith, various languages, regions etc.
700 people in 5 different blocks of Varanasi, at 70 places across India and in ten other countries people came out to support the neodalit campaign by participating in the programme.
In this context the PVCHR and Savitri Bai Phule Mahila Panchayat organized a debate on Neo-dalit campaign in context of gender perspective at the Pararkar Bhavan of Varanasi district on March 22. During the programme women folk school passed the Banaras declaration on Neo dalit Movement.
The programme started with the garlanding of the portrait of Savitri Bai Phule the first female teacher of India and lightening of the lamp by the chief guest Bindu singh and special guest Nasreen Fatima. At first in the programme poster against child marriage and sticker for violence free home and office were launched. During the programme Shirin Shabana Khan, Dr Lenin and Katyayini Singh spoke on the topics. The programme was convened by Shruti and Bindu Singh was the chief guest.
Speaking in the programme Shruti said that the society has been following the caste based and patriarchal system and even today it runs on the derivative of the same in shape of injustice or delayed justice (impunity). There are marginalized people in the villages who are victim of silence. These erroneous customs have been utilized by the powerful elite and un-accountable corporate now days to capture the culture, art, natural resources and even labour of the marginalized. Those who use influence to grab the rights of people employ religion and caste as tool to engage victims in to false fight and thereby establish their supremacy. There is only one alternative against politics of division based on hatred and that is unity of broken people.
What will be our strategy against politics of hatred, violence and exploitation? First unity is unity against caste system, a historical system of exclusion i.e. unity among the lower castes people that have been suppressed since centuries with the progressive anti-caste people born in upper caste. This will be first of its kind unity, which will not be against any person born in to upper caste communities neither against any religion.
Shirin Shabana Khan said that second unity is unity among minorities who suffered with communal fascism, those who believe in communal harmony and people with secular values against neo-fascism. Unity of all poor from all communities against the suffering with neo-liberal policy is the third kind of unity. Since those broken with different kinds of suppression and exclusion means dalit therefore these three kinds of unities is base of impart the neodalit movement.
Head of Gramya organization Bindu Singh said that this initiative will not be on the front of a political party but on a social level which will induce political parties to work for the people as neo dalit agenda.
Nasreen Fatima from Lucknow said that women are making an appeal today that all progressive people with Dalit and OBCs should unity against caste system, secular people and Minorities should unite against communal fascism and poor should unite and participate in the neo-dalit Movement. They should take people from the path of justice, fraternity, rule of law and non-violence to a people’s movement only then will the society specially the women will be free from torture and atrocities.
Without the participation of the women there can be no sustainable stand against injustice, exploitation, atrocity, inhuman acts and communalism. The Banaras declaration in support of Neo-dalit movement was translated in to several languages and programme for debate and support were organized.
Advocacy work is not a job for the faint-hearted. It needs strong and willing men and women who can stand for the truth even if the whole world is against them.
Fighting for the right of the less privileged and their freedom of expression are some of their job descriptions, among other responsibilities.
At times, they have to walk from one office to the other to voice their concerns. When worse come to the worst, they are forced to go to the streets to protest to get the attention of the national and international community.
That kind of work requires a strong social support system as well as good physical health. As much as the passion for human rights is a motivating factor in leaving your bed in the morning; you need a physically fit body to do it with ease.
Your diet and drink as you start your day plays an important role in providing the necessary energy throughout the day.
Coffee is one such drink that is important for the health of a human right official for the following reasons.
Boosts one’s physical performance
The caffeine content of about 10 per cent found in coffee is essential to help in increasing the production of adrenaline hormone.
Adrenaline prepares the body for an intensive physical exercise ahead. That tells you why thirty minutes before a workout, the gym instructors advice you to drink a cup of coffee.
It is the same reason you can’t fail to find an automatic espresso machine at the gym. Human right activist requires that preparation to ensure they can endure the long walks advocating for a human right for the voiceless.
The automatic coffee machine at the human rights office isn’t a bad idea; it comes with fewer maintenance costs.
The access to a fully one touch process to a delicious cup makes you enjoy all the benefits of this beverage.
Maintains a healthy weight
Naturally, coffee helps to reduce the blood sugar levels, which mean your body has less sugar cravings.
Sugar is the number one enemy in weight loss. When you can avoid it, you are sure of minimal weight gain.
At times the office work preparing the documentation to submit and present at the conferences means you have less time to work out. You end up accumulating more bad fat which aids in weight gain.
Coffee suppresses that craving; you end up eating balanced meals which promotes your overall health.
Makes you alert and focussed
Coffee works directly on the central nervous system. Its results are instant; if you want to trans night to ensure you have all you need for that important human right assignment, then coffee should be the drink on your tableside.
If you are to wake up early in the morning to implement the noble exercise, fatigue is inevitable.
Therefore, a cup of coffee helps you to stay focused and alert the whole day without feeling tired due to sleeplessness.
Acts as an antioxidant
Once you have many free radicals, you are prone to pathogen attacks. Coffee is an antioxidant which counters the free radicals in the blood to maintain your body equilibrium- a state of good health.
How are you able to face a jury or a legislative committee as a human right activist when you are in a poor state of health? An antioxidant is health armour against a mirage of diseases.
Promotes cognitive action
Coffee is a stimulant. That makes it a beverage that works directly on the brain for a positive brain functioning.
The fact that it stimulates the production of stress-relieving hormones, including adrenaline, means that it wakes up any sleeping part of the brain.
Its moderate consumption early in the morning is a guarantee for better brain functioning. This is a job that requires more wisdom and tact to achieve your objectives.
Improves your mood
Apart from the hormones, coffee also stimulates the production of neurotransmitters – dopamine, noradrenaline and serotonin, which are responsible for boosting your mood.
Even if you had a rough and disturbing night, you need to wear a bright face in this noble career. Your mood dictates your soberness to handle issues with decorum, especially at a brainstorming session and round table talks.
The overall positive effect of this is the fight against stress and depression and suicide.
Human right activities like
Community mobilization and sensitization
Are not walks in the park. It comes with various challenges and obstacles more so when you have to rub shoulders with the government of the day in a wrong way.
Therefore, that cup of coffee you ignore, or you routinely take is not in vain. It comes with lots of benefits which help you in your line of duty.
Human right administrators should invest in a coffee machine at work to allow their staff also to enjoy the benefits.
Moving up and down in offices, in extreme cases on the streets (the daily hassles of human rights activists), requires a physically fit body.
Social activists have a tiring day; if not sitting in long board room meetings. You can also be on the streets demonstrating for an ordinary course, or they are in brainstorming sessions trying to get way forward for a severe emerging issue.
A healthy body doesn’t come from the blues; you have to work for it daily. The most common way is by enrolling in a fitness program.
Without commitment and consistency, they are bound to fail. At times, the failure doesn’t come out of choice; the busy schedules don’t give ample time for the same.
Traveling is part of the program for a human rights activist.
When they have to get to the ground to get facts and figures to substantiate their research findings for a solution, they need to go right to the controversy center.
Therefore, what options are left for them to maintain a fitness activity?
- Home work out exercises
The barrier to your fitness goals is time. You are engrossed in a tight work schedule, and at times you have to work away from home.
Attending seminars and conferences out of your home country is the norm for such careers.
That makes visiting a fitness center a challenge. Never use the excuse not to have your desired body. Where can you start?
- Use technology to your advantage
- Enroll for online fitness lessons to work irrespective of your location
- Schedule time for home exercise whether at home or away from home
- Stick to the schedule as you monitor progress
- Get a mentor to hold your hand
Best home exercises you can try at home without machines
- Intensive squats
- Abdominal crunches
- Sits ups
- Plank with alternating leg lift
- Taking a walk of nature
The advantage human advocates have is that walking is part of their activities. Although you also need to take time and have nature walk within your neighborhood.
If you are to match walking with running, then do it for long hours. It helps to improve circulation and also take good care of your emotional health.
As you interact with nature and look around the environment, you tend to appreciate what nature offers.
In that case, you achieve two things.
Get that well fit body and work on your mood despite a rough day you had tried to convince government officers on the need for inclusivity for vulnerable groups.
- Bike riding
A bike is a machine you should have when looking to enhance your fitness activities. The times you stay indoors working with minimal physical activity, change your environment, and jump on that bike.
Take a ride to build your confidence, sharpen your mind, and strengthen your muscles. With all these benefits, it translates to productivity in your human rights activism functions.
You need the confidence to face brush shoulders with who-is-who to drive a human right point.
Moreover, that sharp mind is what attracts these people to take you seriously with your humanitarian concept.
Lastly, you have to be in a good state of health for consistency and continuity in work.
- Morning runs
If you are keen, there is an hour you waste before you get out of bed and do something meaningful.
Why not engage that time and run around your neighborhood for physical fitness? It’s vital to give you the necessary energy to start the long day walking from one office to another, if not one meeting to the other.
Morning runs are beneficial for these reasons
- Helps to burn calories
- It’s simple and needs no expensive machines
- Rejuvenates the body to start the day with ease
- Boosts one’s mood
- Provides the necessary energy to start the day
- Reduces stress levels and also
Why should human rights activists strive to have a physically-fit body?
- Have a good state of health to enhance productivity
- Provide the required energy to handle stressful work situations
- Makes them have a good mood to stay positive to the course
- Ideal for giving them a positive mind to look at the good things despite the current huddles
- Makes their work fun and exciting
After engaging in all the fitness activities of choice, visit a massage parlor once in a while.
Get to that massage chair and enjoy a shoulder and back massage to enhance your emotional and physical well being.
You will have a fulfilling and enjoyable lifestyle as much as social advocacy is stressful and demanding.
If there are people who need to rest and take good care of their health, then it’s the charity workers in India.
These are people who work for long hours and go to remote villages to provide the necessary humanitarian aid to vulnerable communities.
Why India in specific? It is a country prone to earthquakes and adverse climatic hazards like typhoons and hurricanes.
Imagine going through the rubble, trying to rescue people trapped in there. Besides, they go to the camps to distribute aid.
It’s one job that you work for long hours but have no option because of the dire need to handle the humanitarian crisis.
A workout is essential for the physical and emotional health of the aid workers. Apart from that, here are some other reasons they need to workout
- Helps to maintain proper weight
- Controls blood sugar level
- Improves one’s mood
- Sharpens your cognitive and psychomotor skills
- Reduces the risk of lifestyle diseases
With all these benefits, what are the best workout activities for aid workers?
The best form of exercise is a sport, though it needs time. Outdoor sport is the best option since they make you engage in a full-body workout.
Another unique advantage of it is the social interaction that aids in emotional well being. The social circle of friends you make from these sporting events relieves you of the stresses of life from either home or at work.
Besides, they aid in exercise specific body parts too. Look at table tennis, for example, as you hit the ball with the paddle, your hands get enough exercise.
Don’t you need your hands to type reports or distribute the meals for earthquake victims? You don’t need to hold the paddle like a professional to enjoy the benefits; as long as there is hand movement, you are good to go.
Taking nature walks
What aid workers see in their line of duty requires a relaxing activity after a hard day. At times, intense physical exercise may not be an option due to fatigue.
Do you know walking is a better physical exercise than running? Interacting with nature away from the norm stimulates the production of “feel good” hormones from the brain, giving an aid worker the much-required positive feeling.
It makes the mind deviate from the normal daily challenges and appreciate nature, which makes you meditate upon good things in life.
What a good way of relaxing both the body and mind? Are you looking for a “me” time to reflect on your life?
Generally, nature is a strong anti-depressant better than the conventional medicine used in treating depression.
India boasts of hills and mountains known as summits of India. As an aid worker, you have the privilege of living in such a place.
As you go up the mountain and come down your exercise and sweat to maintain a healthy body weight.
It’s an intense exercise that requires preparation and practice. Check on your program and schedule a date when you have minimal activities at work.
You can use this as a team-building activity to have the team spirit to get to the top of the hill.
Doing it alone may not be the best option; you need encouragement and support to climb the steep gradients, jump the rocky places, and pass the scary caves associated with Indian mountains.
It’s an activity you can do weekly or monthly; with the kind of work at charity organizations, it’s impractical to do it daily.
Moreover, it also equips you as the aid worker with skills on how to navigate such places. You never know, you might find that will be your next area of assignment.
The exercises mentioned above need time and dedication. What if you want to have a daily workout plan, then the fitness center should be your next stop.
At the gym, you have a structured fitness plan that needs even more dedication and patience.
Before you enroll in your local gym, get to know if it’s in line with your schedule. Make sure you have a clean bill of health from your physician to be sure of your state of health.
At this point, talk to your fitness instructor on what you want to achieve out of the training sessions to tailor the fitness activities to your goal.
What are the options do you have as a beginner?
- Bodyweight training
- Cardiovascular exercises
- Dumbbell workouts
- Weight lifting
- General full-body workout
Who said you couldn’t exercise at home? Once you have the dedication and the zeal to achieve your goal, nothing bars you from reaching your goal.
Use technology to your advantage in this case. Get mobile apps with customized workout plans which need no sophisticated equipment and start the program.
Monitor your progress to help you keep in check with your achievements and failures. What you need to know when working out from home
- Organize a place within the home specifically for workout
- Have a daily target and strive to reach it
- Exercise early in the morning before anything else
- Change into workout clothes
- Start small and intensify as you progress
- Allow your family members to be your support system
A workout is a doable activity despite one’s work schedule in the charity organization. Most people use time as an excuse for not working out, yet there are some of the events that you can do with your family members as you bond- taking nature walks.
It’s upon you as the aid worker to look for what works for you as long as you engage in a workout activity to improve your health.
Humanitarian aid can take any angle as long as they achieve their objective. There are many approaches that the nonprofit making organizations can take just to make sure that they drive the point home. Just one unique way is through a foosball game. Human right victims are people who need love and care. They have gone through enough in their life such that now you only need to engage then in activities that will give them hope and a sense of belonging. A foosball game is an ideal idea. The fact that it gives them the chance to engage in physical activity forgetting about their current situations makes the healing process fast. Even if they have no idea about the game, you can engage a foosball couch to give them the chance to learn the basic rules on how to play foosball.
Why specifically a foosball game?
Diverts their attention
The moment the body and mind are idle, they easily think of the past events which bring bad memories to them. They need to have an activity that shifts their attention to more positive things which in turn reduces the stress levels. There is no way a human right victim can get to depression when they play foosball.
Alleviates insomnia and sleeplessness
As long as there is nothing to occupy the mind of human right victims; they may spend the whole night just thinking of the negative things that have happened in their lives. Insomnia hurts emotional health. With foosball, at the end of the day, the player is tired and both the body and mind relax especially after a hot shower. The only thing they think about is just to have a good sleep. When they wake up, they are better and high in spirit.
Enhances their quality of life
This is a population that has undergone the worst things in life. They are trying to come up with things that will improve their lives. Of course, they are not just engaging in foosball alone. They may be at work or doing other constructive things in their life. Foosball is a way of bringing hope to them. This means that the quality of life of these people is enhanced and they can forget the past event to move on with life.
Boosts their creativity levels
Foosball is a mind game, you have to master the game, follow the rules, observe your opponent with a bid to notice his or her strengths and weaknesses to your advantage. To human right victims, this is a virtue that enhances their cognitive development. They now have the zeal to think of the best thing to do with their lives. They are now informed of their rights and what they need to do when faced with various human rights challenges. In the long run, they know what they need to so with their lives.
Just like foosball, this is a game that enhances both physical and emotional health. It means that they can deal with various issues with ease.
Human rights violations is an act that many people in the world today are engaging in because of ignorance, hatred lack of awareness about human rights. Many peoples rights that include both the old and the young are being violated on a daily basis. Many people think that this act is mostly experienced in third world countries where human rights awareness has not been developed. Surprisingly, such violations are high in
developed countries. Most of these individuals undergo various difficulties that range from depression to personal health. However, there are many ways that have been adopted by various countries to help such individuals overcome life challenges while they are at their homes or charity centers.
Foosball therapy for the victims of human rights can be one of the best techniques for helping these individuals.
First and foremost, foosball is one of the very interesting games in the world today simply because of its nature. Although people are not yet well informed about this game, small foosball tables can be a strong solution for dealing will stress among these people. Stress can quickly reduce the lifespan of an individual more than any other disease because it affects the heart and the brain. Organizing foosball completions for such people will help them have good memories and developing happiness in them, therefore, reducing stress.
Secondly, football as therapy helps in keeping these victims active. Engaging in foosball games requires concentration and creativity. All the body parts are usually involved in the game more especially the hands. Blood flow in the body gets boosted and therefore the body becomes more active. Furthermore, activeness increase appetite for food since most of the violated victims lack appetite because their mind is always thinking about how they have gone through difficulties.
Nevertheless, vengeance and hatred are some of the things that are very hard to be erased from the hearts of these people. They are always thinking of how they can get a chance of revenging back and destroying their violators. However, football games can help soften and eventually cure their hearts. Convincing these people to start focusing on future developments rather than revenge is easier while they are playing foosball.
Healthwise, physical activities are the best in terms of maintaining general body health and foosball is one of the physical activities. It is very difficult to find those people that spend some of their times undertaking physical activities sick. Heart diseases such as heart attack and high blood pressure are some of the main diseases that such victims suffer from. Foosball can greatly help reduce such diseases. Additionally, they are most likely to suffer from obesity since most of them just sit because of the trauma they underwent. Football is a natural remedy for cutting weight because it burns the calories in the body.
Moreover, in terms of socialization, foosball tournaments bring people together and promote interactions. It is very hard to get a violated person conversing with people under normal circumstances because of fear and brain damage. However, a foosball competition that has been organized properly will enable such people to share memories in a lively way as they encourage each other.
Therefore, classic foosball equipment needs to be availed at these competitions. Since many help centers are usually filled up with human rights victims, space is usually a big problem. Using small football tables will be a good idea so that many people can take part in this game.
Rape victims have the right to be given justice for what they have experienced and aside from that they also have the right to have access to the necessary interventions they might need after their traumatic experience. Rape requires numerous structures, including attacks, such as rape or attempted rape, as well as any unwanted sexual contacts or dangers. For the most part, rape occurs when someone touches any part of someone else’s body sexually, even through clothing, without the consent of that person. Several types of sexual activities that fall under the category of rape include limited sex (rape), homosexuality (oral or paroxysmal intercourse), assaulting a child, crossing, stroking and attempting to rape. Rape in any frame is regularly an overwhelming misdemeanor. Aggressors can be outsiders, partners, companions or relatives. Aggressors represent rape by perversity, danger, coercion, control, weight or traps. Whatever the conditions, no one asks for or is essentially subjected to sexual punishment.
Rape survivors’ need therapy to help them remove the trauma because of their experience. There are a lot of things to consider when planning activities that can help them recover. The factors that need to be considered are age, development of the victim in terms of coping up with trauma, availability of the victims’ support group, and the victim’s attitude towards other people. Several survivors of rape will find that they can recover moderately quickly, while others will feel the long-term consequences of their exploitation throughout their lives.
Here are some activities that rape victims recover:
Bond with family and friends
Rape affects the victim, as well as friends and family. If there are people who can best help the rape victims to recover it would be the people closest to them. Rape victims are vulnerable to be depressed due to the traumatic experience and it is when they need their loved ones the most to help them emotionally. It is very important to be very careful in saying things to the victims. Bonding activities should be something that can make the victims feel happy and comfortable. It can be as simple as eating with them or watching a movie, it can be anything as long as it will make them feel happy and comfortable
Consult a psychologist
If there is a professional who can help the victims the most when it comes to mental health, it is the psychologist. Consulting a psychologist can help victims to deal with trauma.
Exercise is a good way to make people feel better but for rape victims, will these be worth it? Yes it is, and studies have shown that people who exercise regularly are not just physically fit but also mentally healthy. Rape victims are more likely suffering from anxiety and/or depression after their traumatic experience and it is very urgent to help them recover mentally so they can go on with their life with a positive mindset. Exercise doesn’t need to be in a gym because some victims might not be comfortable being around other people they don’t know. There are exercises that they can do at home or they can also try playing sports as an exercise. There some sports for small spaces at home like table tennis, badminton, chess, etc. Good thing it’s convenient nowadays to find the best and affordable sports equipment online, thanks to PPP.
Going to a place where they haven’t visited yet will give the victims the feeling of having a fresh start. It would be great if they can be with nature too so they can relax and forget the negative thoughts and memories. It will also give them that feeling that there are more things to look forward in life.
Dealing with trauma brought by rape is a mental battle and it can’t be won if the victims will do it alone. They need people most especially their loved ones to be there for them.
I am surprised that there is no action by NHRC, UN,EU and other International actors working for Human Rights defender. Few People are working in our organization from Europe are also silent. Why? Europe needs market of India? Europe wants to support Hindu Fascist understanding due to their financial interest with India? Where is European value or International value? People like me are working for international values are facing the threat and intimidation. Thanks to Sina from Germany (now in News Zealand) and all associates of PVCHR for their psychological support in recent incident.
I received wonderful support by many people such as, “I was shocked to read about your situation. I did not know that you and your family have been facing so many difficulties and dangers. …….. And yes, the reacting or not reacting of Europe is shocking too. What you say is sadly true. When it comes to financial interests, international values are frighteningly often put aside. People like you are a big light of hope for this world. Keep standing and fighting! May you and your family be protected by all the good powers in this world and in the cosmos!. Until then all my best wishes to you! Don’t give up, the world would be a darker place without people like you!”
I am gratified to share that on 14th March, 2013 FIR (First Information Report) lodged against Mr. Sunil Gupta H/o Sapana Chaurasiya after the long struggle in Mahila (women) Thana Sadar Varanasi case no. 4/13 under section 328/52/458 A/323/504/506 IPC.
I am taking this opportunity to thanks to all of you for providing solidarity to Ms. Sapana Chaurasiya and also to me. I am also giving thanks to those who were silently standing.
Sunil Kumar Gupta, the husband of the corpus has appeared before this court along with five years child who his admittedly born out of wedlock. The question of his country of his custody may arise but for the purpose, corpus may apply before the proper forum in separate suit if she is so advised. The petition stands disposed of, accordingly, her husband, Sunil Kumar Gupta, is restrained from making any kind of interference in the peaceful life and liberty of the corpus. (Order date 18 March 2013 in Habeas Corpus writ petition no 8753 of 2013 filed by Sunil Kumar Gupta on behalf of Sapana)
Recently Sapana is nominee of Hindustan Times woman of year 2013.
Issue: Intimidation, right to life with dignity, threat to human rights defender, Violence against women
Peoples’ Vigilance Committee on Human Rights (PVCHR) Secretary General / Executive Director Dr. Lenin Raghuvanshi received a notice from police station of Catt in Varanasi on January 24, 2013 at around 2.30 pm on complain of perpetrator Mr. Sunil Kumar Gupta on 16 January 2013, the day when the news were published after the press conference of survivor Mrs. Sapana Chaurasiya. But no action on complain on 3 December and 5 December 2012 about violence against woman, threat on December 16 and 20, 2012 by husband of Mrs. Sapana to Shruti Nagvanshi & Lenin Raghuvanshi respectively and again threat on Lenins’ mobile on 16 January 2013.
PVCHR office received a 23-year-old woman Sapana Chaurasiya who was in trouble due to the atrocities by her husband. He used to abuse her every now and then, attacked her dignity in public by humiliating her in front of people, sexually assaulted her and made MMS. She suffered all this at the hand of her husband. She was not allowed to talk to any of the relatives, friends or neighbours and was threatened of dire consequences if she would speak to someone.
It is possible that his previous wife too was tortured like this and out of frustration she committed suicide in the house. However he could convince the in-laws and there was no case filed against him therefore he has a high spirit to commit such offences against the woman he marry. He would take names of musclemen while talking and flaunt their names as in close proximity. One the victim tried lodging a complaint with the Khojwa police-out-post but instead of listening to her woes the cops there tried to convince and threaten her to go back.
Once when she was upset with the torture of her husband she escaped to her mother’s house. But then he sent her a packet in which there were her clothes that were cut in to tiny pieces. He told her that I have sent your clothes now but if you do not return back soon I will do the same with your children so if she wanted has children to live she should come back. Even then she refused to go back. Then her brother Shyamsunder was lifted by cops and held captive in the police station. He was set free only when she went back.
Testimony of Sapana Chaurasiya:
I am Sapana Chaurasiya age 23 years. My mother is Munni Devi and father late Ramnarayan Chaurasia, a resident of Samne Ghat (Shivaji Nagar Colony) police station Lanka, Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh. We are a family with two brothers and four sisters, of which I am the youngest sister.
I was sent by my mother along with a neighbourhood woman Kiran, who used to frequent our place often in Shivaji Nagar to get a picture clicked for my marriage. After getting the picture clicked the woman took me to Sandesh restaurant telling she wanted to offer me some sweets. But after some time there came a man called Sunil son of Kanhaiya Gupta, resident of B24/151, Kashmiri Ganj, Ram Mandir, Khojwa, police station Bhelupur along with few other friends. He came with friends Vinod, Dhobi, Banti and Lamboo and a lawyer and asked me to sign a paper. I started crying when they forced me to do so and I said how could I do this how could I marry like this? I told them my mother was not here and I cannot sign but Kiran forced me to sign. This was June 26, 2005.
Four days later I was forced to marry with him at a Shiv temple and he then took me home. As soon as I reached his home he started misbehaving with me in front of his other family members and when I resisted he slapped me in front of them. I was not aware about his family till then. It was after reaching his house that I got to know he had a son and a daughter (who were 17 and 15 years of age by then). I was not aware of all this till then. By the evening I told him that I will not stay any more with him then he convinced me to stay on making an excuse of illness. I thought it to be fait accompli and became ready to stay.
But my husband was a horrible man who abused me every now and then. There was nothing in between us as there is a sweet relationship between husband and wife in common. He never treated me like wife. Whenever I asked to leave for my mother’s house he would refuse permission. He made sure I do not talk to anyone in his family, among his relatives or friends. He had asked everyone and threatened them to stay away from me.
He never treated me like a wife is treated by her husband and neither did his family members considered me their daughter-in-law. In fact I never got treated as human in that house. My parents were not allowed to some and see me either.
My husband made MMS of our physical relationships and whenever I refused to make a relationship he threatened me that he would make those MMS public and defame me. He regularly threatened me that he would kill my brother.
His previous wife too had committed suicide probably out of this behavior in the house. However in absence of a legal case he is thinking himself safe.
My husband has been involved in many criminal activities. He takes names of musclemen while talking and flaunt their names as in close proximity. Once I had gone to lodge a complaint with the Khojwa police-out-post but instead of listening to her woes the cops there tried to convince and threaten me to go back.
Once when I was upset with the torture and escaped to her mother’s house he had sent me a packet in which there were clothes that was cut in to tiny pieces. He told me that I have sent your clothes now but if you do not return back soon I will do the same with your children so if I wanted children to live I should come back. Even then I refused to go back. Then my brother Shyamsunder was lifted by cops and held captive in the police station. He was set free only when I went back.
Sunil used to inject me medicines meant for mentally challenged person to make me mentally weak. My face went dry and I could not even take care of my little son who is 5 years old. When I became very ill due to the adverse impact of the medicines I was admitted to Banaras Hindu University (BHU) under a famous psychiatrist. There at the hospital the counselor asked me why I was not willing to live with my husband but out of fear I could not tell them the exact situation. Sunil has already fed the doctors and staff that his wife was not willing to live with him neither did she wanted to go anywhere with him.
Sunil used to change his behavior in front of others and acted as if he loved me a lot. His acting could have confused anyone.
Sunil continuously tried to make me mentally weak and often said if I die he would get enormous money. He had got my life insurance done.
Once when I was under serious impact of the medicine he gave me a horrible hair cut and then called up everyone to show me and said see she has gone mad and done such a haircut. I was unable to understand anything then and thought what was going on with me. Even today thinking of those days gives me chill.
If I go back my husband will kill me. I love my son a lot and want to live for him. To all I plead that if they want me to live I shall not be sent back to my husband’s house as I cannot live with him in any condition. I shall be given divorce and my son should be saved.